Anxiety, jealousy and fear: more than a third of young people struggle to emotionally support their partner
Confinement has impacted on all human bonds. New research shows that young couples have experienced difficulties during the pandemic
The COVID-19 pandemic and quarantine continue to be cross-cutting issues in the Argentine reality. The coronavirus has transformed everything we thought we knew about our daily lives and our health into a kind of strange world where people do not leave their homes without protective masks and people are on their cell phones. There is no denying that the past few months have been incredibly difficult, but it seems that the pandemic has also had a significant emotional impact on relationships.
New research, conducted by the Relate charity, shows that young couples have experienced difficulties during the pandemic. More than one in four (28%) of 16- to 34-year-olds said they are anxious about how their relationship will change when the closing ends, compared to 17% in all age groups.
Meanwhile, nearly a third of respondents ages 16 to 34 reported feeling worried that they would feel lonely if their partner stopped working from home. In addition, more than a fifth (23%) said they were concerned that jealousy would become a problem in their relationship again when the shutdown ceases.
“Supporting the other in a difficult time involves significant growth for the couple and also personally. Not everyone was prepared to do it. No one planned to experience a pandemic and the surprise factor was also present for couples. However, discovering yourself capable of giving and receiving support from the couple is growing together, ”said Agustina Fernández, a psychoanalyst specialized in adolescents and a member of the Argentine Psychoanalytic Association, in dialogue with this medium.
Confinement has impacted on all human bonds. For Fernández, “from psychoanalysis it is impossible to think of an isolated man, without ties to others, even when the others remain in the virtuality of an electronic device, the human being needs the support of another and others. And in this complex time, the couple has played a fundamental support role for many people. ”
Social isolation produces different effects depending on the time of each person’s life and the implication of that link. The couple does not have the same meaning for a teenager finishing high school, a young man in the early years of college, a young adult in his thirties and looking for a partner to settle in, as someone already with an armed family and Small children.
“We are not yet in a position to assess the effects of the pandemic and social isolation, many of them we will meet later. But it is very likely that young couples who are in a time of consolidation and growth will be affected in this regard. We are facing something new that we still cannot measure, ”said the specialist.
However, for some people, blocking has resulted in more positive realizations about their relationships. For example, one in 10 respondents across all age groups said the blockage helped them realize that they want to propose to their partner.
The pandemic also appears to have had a positive impact on men, as 41% of surveyed men reported feeling more comfortable having honest and open conversations with loved ones about difficult issues, while 35% of women said so. same.
Finally, almost half of the respondents (45%) said they felt emotionally closer to their parents, while 41% said they realized how much their parents mean to them in the running of the bulls. “Most of us cannot recall a sustained period of pressure in all aspects of life on such a scale. Relationships are critical to health and wellness and we want to raise awareness of their power to protect and support each other in the worst moments, ”said Aidan Jones, Relate CEO.
Jones added that relationships are in the spotlight now more than ever. “The role of relationships is clearly a priority for many. I am encouraging everyone to start a conversation about their relationships this week, either to thank someone for their support during the lockdown or to start addressing the problems that have been hidden in the past few months, “he concluded.